When an individual is suffering with an addiction, those closest to them often endure a wide range of painful emotions such as anger, hurt, confusion, fear and betrayal. This is especially true for children who may struggle to understand addiction and the difficulties that come with it.
Sometimes, the fear of upsetting or losing a child can prevent parents from seeking the correct treatment for their addiction. However, it’s important to know that leaving an addiction untreated can only cause it to become worse, creating more serious problems for children.
If you’re struggling with an addiction and are worried about the consequences this may be having on your child, getting the correct treatment is absolutely essential.
Different Rehab Programmes
At Acquiesce, we understand that everyone is different and many people have daily responsibilities such as taking care of children. That’s why we have two different treatment programmes to choose from: residential and dayhab.
Residential treatment offers a more in-depth approach to treating addiction. Under the programme, you would first undergo a detox to help facilitate the safe removal of substances from the body and to manage the withdrawal symptoms. Then, by staying in our private, luxury accommodation based in Bolton, we can offer an urban recovery model that involves you integrating with the community during your recovery, using a combination of cognitive behavioural therapy and the 12 steps approach.
Our Dayhab programme is non-residential and is flexible enough to accommodate you, including your commitments such as childcare, work etc. We plan around your individual circumstances to ensure there is as little pressure as possible on top of your recovery.
By allowing you to build your way to recovery in your local area around your usual daily responsibilities, such as the school drop-off and pick-up, you will learn how to cope as you would after you have completed treatment. This can be very beneficial to support long term results.
Although many people find the favourable conditions of rehabs far away in the middle of the countryside help with the initial detox, once they leave the rehab facility, the temptation of everyday life can become too much and they relapse.
Under the dayhab programme, you will have weekly one-to-one sessions with your recovery practitioner, an introduction to 12 Steps and many more skills and approaches. Standard Dayhab treatment is between 09:30 and 16:00, from 5 to 7 days a week, however, you can discuss and agree your commitment with a Recovery Practitioner before the treatment starts.
Upon completion of rehab treatment individuals will have a personal and comprehensive relapse prevention plan and on-going support and aftercare that is provided as standard.
How to Prepare Your Children for When You Go to Rehab
One of the most difficult challenges an individual with an addiction can face is telling their loved ones about what they are experiencing. In fact, many people avoid seeking treatment altogether because they are too afraid to admit how serious their substance abuse has become.
However, children are more perceptive than you may think and often notice something is wrong early on. How you approach the subject of your addiction and recovery depends on the age of the child and the type of programme you opt for.
Before diving right in, make sure you have a quiet and calm place to speak with your child and ensure you have plenty of time to fully explain the citation, free of distractions.
Also consider how you are going to explain it and adjust your language appropriately. For example, for younger children who might not be able to understand addiction, you may want to tell them you are feeling poorly and need to go away for a little while to get better.
For older children and teenagers, you’re better using a more honest approach and having an open discussion. Explain that addiction is a disease caused by many things and just like any other disease, you need help to get better.
Make sure to emphasise that what you are experiencing is in no way their fault and encourage them to ask questions so any concerns are out in the open. You should also prepare yourself for a range of emotions in response, from upset to anger to confusion or feelings of betrayal. Make sure not to invalidate their feelings and let them know you understand how they must be feeling.
When it comes to talking about your recovery, make sure you have sufficient plans in place if your children are young and will require another parent or carer to look after them in your absence whilst you are in rehab before talking to them.
If you are attending Dayhab, you may need to put your children in an after-school club or arrange for another family member to pick them up from school.
Once you know these plans, make sure to let your children know they will be in safe hands and that this is only temporary.
Family Support in Rehab
At Acquiesce we offer a range of family support including family psychoeducation and update calls to your loved ones. Evidence shows that including family as part of an individual’s treatment programme can be an important factor in the effectiveness and success of their treatment.
It aims to provide all concerned with a greater understanding of addiction and recovery, demystifying any confusion and offering clarity of a family member’s role and limitations within the process. It also provides a recognition of current responses and provides alternatives and often more productive ways to manage issues.
To start your recovery journey, get in touch for a free, confidential consultation with one of our helpful team members at Acquiesce or find more help and advice here.